Tomorrow Will Be Different by Sarah McBride

Tomorrow Will Be Different

Sarah McBride

Tomorrow Will Be Different is a love story and a call-to-arms that shines a light on personal stories within the trans community, and demonstrates why the fight for equality and freedom has only just begun.

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"A brave, powerful memoir." PEOPLE

A captivating memoir that will change the way we look at identity and equality in this

Before she became the first transgender person to speak at a national political convention in 2016 at the age of twenty-six, Sarah McBride struggled with the decision to come out—not just to her family but to the students of American University, where she was serving as student body president. She’d known she was a girl from her earliest memories, but it wasn’t until the Facebook post announcing her truth went viral that she realized just how much impact her story could have on the country.

Four years later, McBride was one of the nation’s most prominent transgender activists, walking the halls of the White House, advocating inclusive legislation, and addressing the country in the midst of a heated presidential election. She had also found her first love and future husband, Andy, a trans man and fellow activist, who complemented her in every way . . . until cancer tragically intervened.

Informative, heartbreaking, and profoundly empowering, Tomorrow Will Be Different is McBride’s story of love and loss and a powerful entry point into the LGBTQ community’s battle for equal rights and what it means to be openly transgender. From issues like bathroom access to health care to gender in America, McBride weaves the important political and cultural milestones into a personal journey that will open hearts and change minds.

As McBride urges: “We must never be a country that says there’s only one way to love, only one way to look, and only one way to live.”

The fight for equality and freedom has only just begun.

Advance Galley Reviews

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with either too much information or too much personal detail in nonfiction, but McBride was able to balance the two perfectly. I didn’t know very much about Sarah McBride before reading this, but her DNC speech and a foreword by Joe Biden were enough to make me want to read this book. I loved how conversational the book felt; I truly felt like I was listening to someone I had known for years. There was a lot of political talk that could have gotten confusing with jargon and “insider speak,” however McBride makes sure to explain everything in a way that is clear without being condescending. Beyond learning more about her life and the larger fight for LGBTQ rights, I feel like this gave me a great basis of understanding for how political activism works. I hope (and feel very confident) that this is not the last I will hear from Sarah McBride. Her passion and commitment to building a diverse society where everyone’s unique experiences are celebrated is my dream as well. She articulates thoughts I have in a more coherent way, and I am excited to see how she continues to change the world. Thank you to Penguin’s First to Read for an ARC of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

The first time I was introduced to Sarah McBride was when she spoke at the DNC. I already knew about transgender people as my daughter had a friend in high school who was transgender and she would come stay at our house and our daughter would go to her house for overnight stays. I never had an issue with the sleepovers. My husband only asked once if we should be worried and allow it. Once I explained why someone is transgender then he understood. In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah does a great job explaining what she went through all her life knowing she was a girl in a boy’s body. She also does a great job explaining the struggles that transgender people go through just to have basic rights. She talks about how many people have been fought to change state and federal laws and how the fight is still happening as the current White House tries to take away what they fought so hard for. Where I work, our organization has fought the Missouri Government against SJR39 which was a bathroom bill. We won but again there is another bill on the docket. Our office is taking up the fight again. Before I had met my daughter’s friend, I didn’t know what transgender meant. I thought it was the same as transvestite. Which even though different, neither one is a danger to society. It saddens me to see how transgender people are treated and misunderstood. The way I explain transgender to people quickly is a soul was put in a body by mistake. I know Sarah has opened my eyes further in the transgender world and I think if people aren’t sure what it’s like for someone to struggle to live their authentic self, they need to read Sarah’s book. My heart breaks for transgender people and how they are being treated out in the world. They just want to live their lives to the fullest and feel safe. I’m so glad I read Tomorrow Will Be Different.

"The constant homesickness that had cluttered my mind for years was finally gone." - Sarah McBride on coming out as transgender. I did not know who Sarah McBride was before I read this book (even though I should have), but the title and forward by Joe Biden interested me and I am SO glad I picked it up. Sarah's story of her life and political accomplishments fighting for equal gender rights and marriage equality was so interesting - I could not believe that she is not even 30 years old yet. I felt like this book really dove right into it at the beginning, detailing Sarah's coming out when she was student body president at American University in the first few chapters. It then went on to talk about the amazing work she did in passing the Gender Identity Nondiscrimination Act in Delaware. I had heard of the North Carolina House Bill, but not of this legislation from 2013. The author does not assume the reader knows what’s she’s talking about, both when it comes to words associated with gender identity, but also with politics, which I really appreciated. I also really appreciated that Sarah recognizes her privilege, which I think can be a really hard thing to do for anyone, let alone someone who is transgender. She remarks more than once about how she recognizes that her economic status and race make her more privileged than many transgender people. The reaction of her parents and the struggle of acceptance they go through, while also trying to be supportive of Sarah's transition, was captured very well in the book. Sarah's relationship with Andy is also wonderfully detailed. I was heartbroken for Sarah throughout the book because of the harassment and disrespect she (and many others) face simply because they are transgender. It amazes me that people can be so cruel and highlights even more so why there must be gender identity protection laws. I have never read a book about someone coming out as transgender and it was such an important perspective for me to read, especially as a straight, cisgender woman. I do not personally know anyone who has transitioned, so prior to this book I did not have an insight into someone's life who is transgender. Sara explains it well by saying, "With sexual orientation it's a bit easier. Most people can extrapolate from their own experiences with love and lust, but they don't have an analogous experience with being transgender." This resonated with me and I am glad Sarah shared her story with not only me, but the world. Highly recommend this book - 5/5 stars.

I was very excited to read this but was having trouble with the download. :(

I definitely enjoyed this more than I expected to. I've never read McBride before but I was pleasantly surprised by her writing style. It was a definitely an engaging read,

Compelling, timely account of personal struggles to find a place of psychological and social ease amidst a changing world. McBride grew up with a lifelong interest in politics alongside a deep belief that she was not physically/emotionally gender-aligned. Her memoir explores her journey from exploring those feelings in childhood to sharing them with her family to ultimately working as an intern in the Obama White House. She falls in love and marries someone who becomes a cancer victim and writes eloquently of her experience. McBride’s writing is achingly clear; we experience her pain and anguish as much as her breakthrough joy. Hard to believe she’s only in her early thirties. I received my copy from Penguin’s First to Read Program.

And once again Susan has to determine how to "rate" someone's presentation of their own life! Ms. McBride offers an insight into her decision to come out as transgender, her transition, and what went on around her and how others reacted. She admits that she was extremely lucky to come from a place of privilege to support her journey. Frequently Sarah mentions the increased difficulties faced by people of color who are abused, ostracized, etc, in their quest to be their own true person and she recognizes that she was lucky. I appreciate that she acknowledges that her struggles don't define the struggles of all transgenders. Because of her occupation, the book includes a lot regarding the political fight for LGBTQ rights. On one hand, I liked that this was included because I was being educated but at some point it started to feel like it was taking away from Sarah's own story. It seemed that she realized she had this platform to make a presentation and wanted to cram in everything she ever wanted to get across in case she never ever had that opportunity again. I don't think that will be a problem and enjoyed the more personal parts, like her relationship with Andy, more.

I received this book in exchange for an honest review. I requested this book because I wanted to learn more about the LGBTQ community and their struggles for equality. This book covers this concept from a very personal viewpoint. I felt that Ms. McBride was often too exclusively wrapped up in telling her story to give much of a history of the activism and accomplishments of the community as a whole however. I was rather stunned to read that her need for recognition seemed to surpass mere acceptance of who she was when she admitted her insecurity and irritation at not being recognized as a trans woman as opposed to just as another woman. I feel the book is full of hope and informative of the struggles to improve the life we live told from a personal level. I am glad I took the time to read it as it invoked much soul-searching in the process.

McBride's memoir of coming out as a trans woman and losing her husband is difficult to review as it reads like a few different books. Some chapters read as non-fiction and include many statistics and facts about the trans population in the U.S. as a whole, other chapters are detailed accounts of McBride's efforts to change Delaware legislation, and others are a personal account of her experiences with coming out and meeting her husband (who was a trans activist and lawyer). Often, the subjects bleed into one another with no page breaks and it is jarring to follow her stream of consciousness from a personal experience to a statistic to a state law, etc. It sometimes feels disorganized and rambling, as though McBride couldn't decide whether she wanted to write an educational tome or a personal narrative. I skimmed several (long) sections of the book that go into elaborate detail on Delaware legislation and politics - while inherent in McBride's personal experience, the level of detail is not relevant to the average reader. There are several chapters that could have been edited down to paragraphs and still conveyed her struggles and victories. I would have preferred to read more personal accounts from McBride's childhood rather than reading such an elaborate and detailed account of every conversation, meeting, and setback that occurred during her admirable efforts to achieve equality in her home state. That said, the middle of the book where she shares her experiences of falling in love and losing her husband are sad but captivating. Her writing style remains a bit formal and spare, but the emotion behind it is more engaging.

This book is a crossover between a doomed love story and a political memoir. Sarah McBride loved politics from a young age and came out as Transgender at the end of college. Thankfully for her, both her college and her family/friends were very supportive once the initial shock was done. She met Andy at a White House event and they quickly fell in love with each other. Unfortunately, Andy got cancer 2x and died at a heartbreaking 28 years old just a few days after their wedding. I cried buckets while reading the story of their days together. It just doesn't seem fair to find the love of your life only to have him taken away so quickly. I wasn't as into the political side of the story, but I still found it very interesting to read how things worked in Delaware with trying to pass non-discrimination laws. While the sadness of the love story did overwhelm me, the hope in Sarah's words in politics about making this country great for everyone gave me chills. I applaud Sarah's courage in getting up and sharing her story with the world. I also enjoyed reading VP BIden's forward in the book.

This was a fascinating book on many levels First, Sarah is a very self aware and confident young wow, She handled her coming our and transitioning vey smoothly ( or so it seemed) in the book, Her identity was not in question; rather how to be the person she was meant to be in public and all the time was. The struggle for equality for the LGBTQ, especially trans community, was gripping. Sarah was politically aware at such a young age. Delaware is a unique state where the elected officials are public and accessible and Sarah was so fortunate to have the close contact with so many of these officials who were so supportive and open with her. The book combined her personal life with the larger political issues. The political maneuverings may seem dry at times, but were integral to understanding the kind of person Sarah is. Her relationship with Andy was gripping heartfelt and sad in the end. I admired Sarah for her life, her work and her ability to covey her message t the larger community. This was a good biography to read.

"I'm twenty-four, transgender, and a widow...that's a lot for someone in this society to handle." Sarah McBride In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah McBride shares her personal story as inspiration and to put a face on what it is to be transgender. Imagine being unable to go into a public restroom in North Carolina without breaking the law. Imagine being unable to change your sex on your state ID, or being unable to keep a job or find housing. Imagine being vilified, ostracized, beaten up, an object of fear. Nearly fifty years ago my husband 's father's best friend disowned his son when he became a woman. Over the years I heard snippets of the story, how as a child their son loved to play dolls and dress up with his older sisters, how blame was assigned for causing their son's 'problem', the resulting divorce and alienation. In the 1990s my husband was approached by a teen from his church, an unhappy and angry child. Some thought she was presenting 'butch' because she was not conventionally pretty, assuming she was a 'pretend lesbian'. My husband affirmed her, but the support she needed from the community was not there. She changed her name and moved away. Today I know he was transgender, and I see on his Facebook page a happy, confident, burly guy with a successful career and a sparkle in his eye. I am so happy for him. I wanted to read Tomorrow Will Be Different by Sarah McBride because I had seen her on television and knew she was an intelligent and lovely person. And I wanted to better understand her experience and the work toward equality for all persons. The book's preface by Joe Biden is a must read. I recently read his Promise Me, Dad and I heard the same compassion and love in this preface. McBride was fascinated by American politics since childhood. Meeting Joe Biden was an unforgettable moment. She interned on Beau Biden's first race. McBride was fifteen when she introducing Jack Markell at the launch for his 2006 race for reelection as state treasurer, and at age eighteen when he ran for governor. During these years, McBride outwardly conformed to the gender role socially acceptable, presenting masculine and even dating. She did not want to let anyone down. But she was miserable. McBride ran for student president at college to great success and was very popular and led a push to end gender exclusive housing. In her junior year, with great trepidation, McBride announced being transsexual. She describes the scene when she came out to her family, her mother in tears. McBride had a gay brother, and her other brother tried to break the ice by announcing, "I'm heterosexual." In a heartwarming scene, McBride tells her fraternity brothers, who enveloped her in an embrace. Beau Biden called her to offer his love and support, as did Joe Biden. The Biden family confirmed her belief that there are still good people in politics. McBride repeats how lucky and privileged she has been, knowing that most trans persons lack a support system and her advantages. Throughout the book, she shares the devastating statistics behind the transgender experience: high rates of suicide; verbal harassment and physical assault in public restrooms; legal exemptions that allow discrimination; inability to find housing or keep a job. McBride met the love of her life, Andy, who was a few years older and also trans. Tragedy struck when Andy was diagnosed with cancer and underwent surgery and treatment with McBride providing care and support. I can't imagine the burden of being twenty-three and watching your beloved struggle with a terminal illness. Both my parents died of cancer, and I was at my Dad's side in the hospital for over two months. My heart broke as I read McBride's story. Trans rights advanced under President Obama, then 2016 saw the election of President Trump and Vice President Pence. The gains for equality under the law are being threatened. But McBride has found hope in the young people of our country, those who have been accepted as children for who they are, and who assume that the doors are open to them. I pray it is so. I received a free ebook from First to Read in exchange for a fair and unbiased review.

An emotional read. - a window into what transgender people have to deal with on a daily basis. The book will, hopefully, open people's eyes to the inequalities that exist.

This is a story of Sarah McBride coming out as a transgender woman, her advocacy for LGBTQ rights, her romance with her husband, and his battle with cancer, which he ultimately lost. All of that would have been enough to make a wonderful story. McBride's writing style is endearing and friendly, matter-of-fact even when conveying strong emotion. I cried on a couple different occasions even though I knew what was coming. This story isn't going to change anyone's mind about accepting transgender people if they're dead set against it. But for the majority of Americans who don't know a transgender person personally (as far as they know), this story will bring home what it feels like to be transgender, what the issues truly are, and may clear up some persistent misunderstandings. But more than any of that, the most refreshing thing about this story is that it is the case for political involvement from someone who believes in politics from the depths of her soul. After the last year (+) of, well, not-so-inspiring news coming out of our nation's capitol and a general feeling of hopelessness, this young woman came along and lifted me up. She is a member of one of the vulnerable populations our new Attorney General went after, and yet she is hopeful. In her short life, she has seen a great deal of change. She has been lucky in her family and friends (and unlucky to have lost her love to cancer), and she is keenly aware of that and ready to push for more change. She allowed me to take a deep breath and reconsider wider possibilities. And any book that can do that in these times is very very welcome. I got a copy to review from First to Read.

This book was extremely informative and moving. I learned so much about the LGBTQ movement. I’d had some idea, but I never realized how big it was until now. I’m so extremely proud of Sarah for all she has done for our country and all that she is going to do. I almost cried at the end. It’s incredible how much you’ve accomplished in such a short time. Overall, this book was amazing! This is something everyone should read, especially young kids. Hopefully, you’ll become our president one day!

This book was very moving. I felt Sarah’s triumphs, her fears, her grief (and shed some tears over her loss). Overall, this book is well-written, and I thought it had good flow, something many memoirs struggle with. Learning about Sarah’s life and how she came to accept herself and her identity was really compelling. I also appreciate that even as she is telling her story, she consistently highlights her relative privilege and elevates the struggles faced by trans* community. An important and powerful memoir.


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