I Have Lost My Way by Gayle Forman

I Have Lost My Way

Gayle Forman

Told over the course of a single day from three different perspectives, Gayle Forman's newest novel about the power of friendship and being true to who you are is filled with the elegant prose that her fans have come to know and love.

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“A beautifully written love song to every young person who has ever moved through fear and found themselves on the other side.” – Jacqueline Woodson, bestselling author of Brown Girl Dreaming

Around the time that Freya loses her voice while recording her debut album, Harun is making plans to run away from everyone he has ever loved, and Nathaniel is arriving in New York City with a backpack, a desperate plan, and nothing left to lose. When a fateful accident draws these three strangers together, their secrets start to unravel as they begin to understand that the way out of their own loss might just lie in help­ing the others out of theirs.

An emotionally cathartic story of losing love, finding love, and dis­covering the person you are meant to be, I Have Lost My Way is best­selling author Gayle Forman at her finest.

Advance Galley Reviews

I love reading Gayle Forman's books because they have so much heart and emotional depth in them. This book was no exception. It was a quick read and everything happens over the course of a single day, but it was still thoroughly engrossing and entertaining, even while dealing with serious topics like loss and loneliness. I really enjoyed it and definitely recommend it.

I picked this book for the First to Read program, which provided me with a free copy to review, because Gayle Forman is one of my students’ favorite authors to read. She shares compelling stories that people can relate to, and I Have Lost My Way is no exception. From the beginning I knew I would enjoy this book because I am a sucker for seeing the story from multiple perspectives; to make it even better this novel also contains flashbacks into the pasts of our three narrators. I very easily found myself drawn into the story of Freya, a rising star; Harun, a homosexual who is not yet out to his family; and Nathaniel, a young man brought up with a father who was mentally unstable. These three characters find each other one clandestine day and then become integral parts of each other’s futures. I loved seeing how three seemingly different people were able to relate and change each other for the better. I also appreciated how full the characters were; I knew everything I needed to know about them in order to feel connected to their stories. I honestly think you should read this book because it is engaging, enjoyable, and entertaining! (I love alliterations!) Make sure you check it out!

I heard a lot of hype about I Have Lost My Way, and Gayle Foreman is usually good for a solidly emotional read, and that was exactly what I was in the mood for. So, when it didn't really grab me emotionally, I was a little disappointed. The plot is good, the characters interesting and well rounded, but it wasn't the rich emotional read I was looking for.

It took me a moment to get into. I had to get used to the story switching between three people, Freya, Harun, and Nathaniel. There were times it switched after a paragraph to a new person and it got confusing figuring out who it was. But once the story really started, I got way into it. I was hooked. I loved how these three separate people all came together by accident but yet they all were feeling the same - they have lost their way. Though their reasoning for being lost were completely different, they all needed something - each other. I loved how they all ended up helping each other without really realizing it. My heart broke for two of the three; Harun had to choose between who he loved or his family’s happiness and Nathaniel is struggling within. Though Freya’s story didn’t break my heart, I sympathize what she was going through. I loved their back stories, it just made me feel closer to them. Though I liked the way it ended. I wanted more! The stories ended with some kind of closure but I need like an epilogue or something. I just want to make sure everything is good with them.

I am fortunate enough to periodically have the opportunity to try to score an advance reader's copy of upcoming books. I try my luck nearly every time I get an email about them, and am not successful a lot of the time. This is ok because there are a lot of books out there, and nine times out of ten, if I am not selected for the ARC, I will still end up reading the book. A few weeks ago, this Gayle Forman book popped up as one we could try our luck with. This time though, I had enough points to guarantee a copy for myself, and since I have liked every book of hers I have read, I knew I needed to get this one. This is a story about three people who have, quite literally, lost their way. Up first is Freya. Freya is a singer on the verge of making it big. Unfortunately, some three weeks prior, she has lost the ability to sing. This is a bit of a problem as she was born singing. It was the one thing she had with her father who left her to go start a new life in his homeland of Ethiopia. It is what cost her any sort of relationship with her sister, which is how she finds herself falling off of a bridge in Central Park. Then there is Harun, a young Muslim man who is living a lie to keep from disappointing his parents. Harun is gay and his boyfriend recently broke up with him because Harun won't come out to his family. On this particular day, he heads to Central Park in the hopes of running into his boyfriend and show him that he is willing to do what it takes to be with him when he sees a young woman falling off of a bridge. Last there is Nathaniel. He is a young man from Washington state. His parents are divorced because his mother said she couldn't live with two children, the implication, and rightly so, that her husband was a child. Nathaniel has two different colored eyes as a result of an accident, and something has happened that has turned him into something feral (his words, not mine). Freya lands on Nathaniel when she falls off of the bridge. This accident is what brings the three of them together, and together they begin to find their way. Like Forman's other books, her characters are complex and she provides a backstory that helps the reader understand why they are the way they are. In this case, it helps to show how they lost their way, so that when they get back on track it all blends together.

This is a quick read, well written with a strong cast of diverse characters. The characters felt real and relatable. My only complaint is that the ending felt too abrupt. Overall a solid, enjoyable read.

This is the first Gayle Forman book I've read and I'm quite positive it won't be the last. Told from the viewpoint of 3 teenage characters who have all lost their way through tough times and happen upon each other by chance in NYC. In the span of one day the stories of their pasts unfold and they help each other to see happiness in a way that none of them have experienced before. I would have loved for the book to go on deeper into the lives of these characters but it was so beautifully written that I was happy to leave it where it was at the end of that one day.

I am a big fan of Gayle Forman’s books and was super excited for the chance to read this one. It took me a couple of hours because I couldn’t put it down. I connected with these characters in such a way that I understood how they lost their way and why and wanted to see where the story went. I wanted them all to be happy. I kept picturing it like a really good movie in my head and was ultimately sad when it was over not knowing if there’d be any more from the theee people the book revolves around. But I do know I will continue to read any book that the author puts out. Like her others this is a beautiful story. It’s emotional and it’s worth the read.

Gayle Forman knows how to write a beautiful story. This is a book of three teenagers who have lost their way, but their lives are changed after a chance meeting. Its heartbreaking, emotional, and the characters are so well written. If you enjoy YA, this one is worth picking up.

I really enjoyed this book! I thought it was well-written and a great story about finding friendship in unexpected places. Everything doesn't end perfectly either - which is nice and works really well in this book. I thought the characters were relate-able and easy to find connections to. The book will most likely make you teary eyed while reading, but it is just a heart-warming book. The stories were captivating and the book balanced each character well - while moving between the past and the present. Great read!

I'm writing this review immediately after finishing because I am on such an emotional high right now. I thought this was such a beautiful, sad, sweet book. To be honest, I requested an arc of I Have Lost My Way only because I've liked some books by Gayle Forman in the past. But that was it. The blurb hadn't particularly grabbed my interest and I was thinking I could just put it aside if it didn't work for me. Instead, I was completely captivated. There's one big thing I didn't like and I'll get to that in a second. But first I'd like to talk about all the emotions this intricate character study made me feel. You can tell instantly that the book is written by an experienced author who knows how to craft a perfect scene and convey emotions through showing rather than telling. Forman uses an extremely compelling build-up to frame the strange and fateful meeting between three very different teens - Freya, Harun and Nathaniel - in NYC's Central Park. The story takes place over the course of one day, but is broken up with flashbacks that paint in the backgrounds of the three characters. Each has, as the title suggests, lost their way, and the author explores how maybe, with the help of one another, they can get back on the right path. It is a novel told in quiet intimate details, and in moments between characters. Hope and uplifting sentiments battle it out with pain and loss, making for a bittersweet mix. Three very interesting stories are woven together here. Freya is an "almost famous" teen singer who - for reasons unknown - has lost her voice. She is the product of an Ethiopian father and a white Jewish mother, and we soon see how her relationship with her father has affected her life, goals and, especially, the relationship between her and her sister, Sabrina. I adored the complexity of their relationship and discovering what happened between them. Harun is gay and Muslim, struggling to come out to his parents. His refusal to do so has led to his boyfriend, James (described as dark-skinned) breaking up with him. I was shipping these two so hard and it broke my heart again and again when obstacles tore them apart. There was also some interesting discussion of race and Islam in Harun's chapters, specifically being Muslim in post-9/11 New York City. At first, I wondered if Nathaniel would be noticeably less interesting than the other two characters, but as his story is gradually revealed I realised that wasn't true at all. His background carries the most mystery and we are left to ponder what has left him with only one eye, hungry and out-of-sorts in New York City. The story of his strange childlike father, who always needed to be taken care of, is fascinating and sad. As is his father's insistence on it just being the two of them, like Frodo and Sam. The one thing I didn't like was the one-day romance that developed. There's so much more to this book that I was able to overlook it, but it was completely unnecessary. It's not instalove, exactly, but their meeting is so overwritten and purple that one would be forgiven for calling it that. But, you know, I just don't care that much. I thought this book was great. It was difficult to pull myself away from the characters' lives and return to reality. I Have Lost My Way is not easy or neat, but that's okay; it's a stronger book for being messy and complex. And I really appreciated the realistically diverse portrait of New York City.

I was...ambivalent about this book at first. As I got through the first quarter of it (after which I always make my decision whether to finish a book), I felt like I wasn't getting the full story, that the format was preventing me from getting to know these characters as deeply as I wanted to. But I kept reading, because I realized that I wanted to know them better. And then I felt like that was a perfect metaphor for the characters. They came together by the slimmest of chances, but they needed each other. And they didn't know each other deeply, but they clung to each other regardless. And each of them was compelling in their own way. Once I finished the book, I felt that I had been given the gift of a small glance into these characters' lives, and though I wanted to know more, I was okay with leaving them where they were. I don't know if that will make sense if you haven't already read the book, but I don't want to spoil anything. I'll just close by saying it's moving and delightful read, and I highly recommend it.

Thank you to First to Read for providing me a copy of this book for honest review. This was a quick read that had three very interesting characters. I liked the way it went back and told each of their stories until we got a full picture of their lives. I was even totally on board with the instafriendship (as opposed to instalove ;) because it felt genuine. I got to the end and couldn't believe that was it. I'm okay with books that leave you wondering what happened. I even prefer it sometimes. In this case I didn't like it, mostly because I wanted to read more about the friendship between these three strangers turned friends. I guess in a way the book felt a bit too superficial in how certain characters were written. Overall not an amazing read but definitely an interesting one with compelling characters.

Thank you Penguin Random House for the advanced copy of this book - all thoughts and opinions are my own. I so often spend my reading time submerged in crime/mystery/thrillers, and so while this book was not in my "normal" genre, was like a terrific breath of fresh air for me as a reader. This story is so wonderfully human - I absolutely devoured this read in one sitting. I Have Lost My Way follows three strangers whose paths collide one fateful date in New York, forever changing the way they look at themselves and the world, and teaching them about real love in the process. Gayle Forman does wonderful work in interweaving the three perspectives flawlessly, moving through the story that happens primarily in one day, with bits of the three characters backgrounds, letting us better understand what has brought them to this chance day together. The characters, although getting such small pieces of them, have wonderful depth and are still fully formed. I adored the diversity of the characters, and all their flaws and quirks. I could happily read volumes of adventures of these three, and will keep my fingers crossed that this is not the last that we will hear from them. 5 solid stars - this will be a read that YA lovers, as well as readers who enjoy a strong character drama will love.

I Have Lost My Way sees three strangers through a formative day, with alternating flashbacks of each character's story. They meet accidentally, and see in each other the same ache they have in themselves for true belonging and acceptance. They laugh and cry together, spending the day realizing that there could be more to life than the despair they have resigned themselves to. Definitely a wonderful story of finding hope. Gayle Forman delivers yet again.

The book starts off with 3 people who appear to have nothing in common. I was unsure how their stories would be able to tie together but the more i read, the more they came together. The flashbacks help pull the story together. Up to about page 110 i was interested but not fully vested in the story. After that pointed, my attention waa grabbed, things started ti really come together and i didn't want to put it down until i finished it. The ending had me tearing up and if ahe so choose, it was left open for a possible future sequel.I would recommend this book to others.

Thanks to First to Read for an ARC of this book! This book was so beautifully written. Before the three characters meet I was unsure how their personal journeys would be able to play out alongside each other, but Forman does a great job of making it work without forcing it. I loved the diversity of the characters and how their stories were so different but their feelings were echoed in one another. It was very easy for me to feel a connection to each of them. I loved how even though it is revealed in the beginning what Freya, Haydn, and Nathaniel’s background is, you don’t really see the full picture of each until the very end. Each flashback chapter felt like a new piece of the puzzle. I liked how the flashbacks changed into first person narrative so it felt more personal from the character. I also liked that the present day narration would jump from character to character to show how similar their thoughts and feelings were. Each character has a good personal journey that is initiated and helped along by the other two characters while still feeling like the charcter’s own journey. This was a quick read which ended on a hopeful note for each of the characters, without the ending being too much of a forced tying together of loose ends.

**Thank you to FirstToRead.com for sending me an ARC in exchange for an honest review!** I'm writing this review in the United States in March of 2018, where this entire country is learning horrible and difficult lessons on the downfalls of isolation and lack of empathy. "I Have Lost My Way" by Gayle Forman is the perfect read for a generation where we are surrounded by social media, thousands of virtual friends and interactions, but still somehow can feel very alone. All three of the main characters - Freya, an aspiring musician who has suddenly and mysteriously lost of her voice; Harun, struggling with his sexuality and being brave enough to live his life the way he wants to; and my favorite character, Nathaniel, whose childhood has left him isolated from the workings of the world, and really the workings of his own self - are battling through loneliness, and loss. I truly enjoyed Forman's poetic writing - she writes lines in a way that makes you pause for a moment and wish you could summarize your feelings in the same way. But I wish she had given us more time with these characters. We are introduced to their current predicaments, and flashbacks of how everything culminated the way it did, and we get a sense of a 'happy ending' - but nothing concrete. That very well may be the point, but I enjoy my i's dotted and my t's crossed and a character arc complete. The character's problems were deep and psychologically rooted, and I didn't leave feeling satisfied they would be okay. However, I did devour the book in less than 12 hours, and I did enjoy it. It left me wanting more, and can see the opening for a sequel. 3.5 out of 5 stars

Three strangers drawn together after an accident find they might have more in common than they think. Freya, loses her voice while recording an album, Harun has plans to leave NYC, while Nathaniel has arrived in the city with just a backpack and a desperate plan. While the three of them might feel like they have lost their way, they might soon discover that helping others just might help themselves. This is one of those books in which I was a little bit uncertain at first where this book was headed and if I would even like it. Thankfully, it all seemed to come together by page 100 or so and it was a real pleasure to watch the three main characters bond and help each other out. Loved how fate brought them together when they needed help the most. The action takes place over the course of a day with flashbacks showing how each character got to the present day. I thought the pacing was just right and would recommend this book to anyone who likes young adult fiction. Thank you to First to Read for the opportunity to read an advance digital copy!

***Thanks to First to Read for providing me a complimentary copy of I HAVE LOST MY WAY by Gayle Forman in exchange for my honest review.*** 3.5 STARS Three strangers from diverse ethnicities meet in New York City, spend part of a day together and solves some of the issues interfering with their happiness. YouTube singer and hopeful.star Freya has literally lost her singing voice. For Harun, his loss of voice is figurative, fearing coming out will disappoint his Muslim family. Nathaniel’s loss is more mysterious. If you can get past the insta-love and insta-friend aspects of I HAVE LOST MY WAY, Gayle Forman’s latest release is a quick and heartfelt read about fractured relationships, some fixable, some not. Forman packs a lot in this short novel and does it well. Parents. Siblings. Partners. Cultural norms. Half-truths and lies. Honesty in all its shades. Expectations of self and others. I enjoyed reading I HAVE LOST MY WAY. As always Forman’s words are gorgeous and compelling. The characters were unique and as fully fleshed out as can be shown over the course of half a day. I never connected with the characters or felt immersed in their journeys. I don’t think I’ll remember much about the story or people tomorrow. Borrow, don’t purchase I HAVE LOST MY WAY.


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